The Amygdala Hijack: Useful Picture, Loose Science
Treat a sudden flash of anger as a body surge that passes in minutes, and do not decide anything until it does.
The idea is a helpful picture, but the brain science is simpler in the book than in the lab; emotions involve many brain areas, not one switch.
Why it works
Strong anger narrows thinking for a short time. Knowing that it passes helps you wait instead of acting on it.
How to do it
- Notice the surge: heat, fast heart.
- Tell yourself it will pass.
- Delay any decision or reply.
- Come back once you feel normal.
What to say
I want to think about that before I answer.
Give me five minutes and I will come back with a clear answer.
Avoid
Saying my amygdala took over as an excuse. The idea is to catch it, not to blame it.
Example
When a client cancelled a signed search by phone, Devendra felt a surge and said he would call back in ten minutes. After a walk he called and saved half the fee.
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